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An Unlikely Golf Groupie: Fangirling My Way Through A Year of Pandemic Anxiety

An Unlikely Golf Groupie: Fangirling My Way Through A Year of Pandemic Anxiety

As many stories do, this one starts with a cute guy.

But this story isn’t actually about the cute guy. It’s about the sport he is passionate about and introduced me to.

The sport that did what little else could — it calmed the overwhelming anxiety I started experiencing about six months into the pandemic. Anxiety that I have never experienced before in my life and that has kept me isolated and — as I like to joke — almost feral.

Golf soothed that anxiety…and my soul.

I Look Forward to Finally Meeting You, Love

I Look Forward to Finally Meeting You, Love

Sunday mornings are for coffee and daydreams.
The kind that have me wondering about slow love.
Knowing glances over our steaming mugs,
Me baking scones for you, and you feeding me a bite of your bacon…

I wonder what you will look like,
Although that’s never mattered much to me.
I care so much more about what your soul feels like,
And how connected we are…beyond the day-to-day activities.

A Wistful Sunday, A Restless Soul

A Wistful Sunday, A Restless Soul

I awake feeling something I cannot name,
Something that feels unusual in my soul.
Until it comes to me softly,
And whispers its name to my heart…Wistful.

A long, quiet Sunday stretches out before me,
An empty day that is mine to create.
And while there is peace in my home,
There is none in my heart.

Sometimes When You Are Quiet, It Feels Loud To Me

Sometimes When You Are Quiet, It Feels Loud To Me

“Sometimes when you are quiet, it feels loud to me,” my friend messaged.

That comment from a week or two ago has stuck with me.

Even though I still haven’t responded to the message.

Even in my ongoing silence.

A silence not meant to keep others out, but to protect what is left within.

To guard the little that remains.

Keeping myself safe because it no longer feels safe anywhere.

The Magic of Musicals, Triggers, & Dreams That Don’t Look Like We Thought They Would

The Magic of Musicals, Triggers, & Dreams That Don’t Look Like We Thought They Would

Triggers are a funny thing.

They can affect you in a good way that leads to growth. And they can also affect you in a way that rips your heart out. And hopefully also leads to growth.

Tonight, my trigger was a musical.

An Almost-Feral Chick’s Plan for Reintegrating into Society, Post-Pandemic

An Almost-Feral Chick’s Plan for Reintegrating into Society, Post-Pandemic

A friend of mine admitted to me recently that he had judged me when I told him I was having anxiety about reintegrating back into society after the pandemic.

For saying that I felt almost feral and perhaps even a little agoraphobic — and not at all sure how I was going to prepare myself for leaving my house on a regular basis again.

You Made Me Believe­­­ — & Now I’m Scared I Can’t Do It Again

You Made Me Believe­­­ — & Now I’m Scared I Can’t Do It Again

You made me believe.

You made me believe. In a lifelong love that could not be broken. Would not be broken. No matter what.

You made me believe. In love lost and love revisited. That the one that got away sometimes comes back. And thought that I was the one that got away.

My Heart is Your Heart — But You Are the Hero in Your Story

My Heart is Your Heart — But You Are the Hero in Your Story

I felt you all week.

Your pain. Your anguish. Your heartbreak. Your loneliness. Your desperation. Your hopelessness. Your disconnection. Your love. Your need.

I felt it all.

Because my heart is your heart. I feel what you feel. And as I am here for you, I also know that I need to hold you from within the boundaries that my giant empath heart needs.

Her Solitary Heart

Her Solitary Heart

Her solitary heart.

She is bigger in her capacity to love than most other hearts she knows.

She can love those who hurt her. Especially those hearts, because she can feel their pain, pulsating through their battle-weary bodies.

She can love those who wish her ill. Because she knows it comes from a place of their own hurt and they are still doing only the best that they can in this moment. In every moment.